Inspiration notes: This song was inspired by Mike, whose son Jeremy thrives on knowing that he's got "a good day" lined up. Like many parents raising a child with autism Mike manages a delicate balance: Helping Jeremy learn new skills, while at the same time providing the familiarity that makes Jeremy's days go smoothly. Mike is committed to making sure that Jeremy has as many good days as possible. Here Mike reflects on his belief that Jeremy sees that commitment and understands his father's love for him, even if he doesn't convey it in words.
What makes a "good" day for you and I, is not always what makes a "good" day for someone who experiences autism. Sometimes as parents and friends we need to change our expectations - or the world's expectations - instead of changing our son or daughter. More spontaneity might be something that many of us long for in our lives, but for those on the autism spectrum surprises and new experiences can be especially challenging. Taking the perspective of another, or "Theory of Mind" is not something that comes instinctively for those on the spectrum. Therefore, it's unlikely that a person with ASD will recognize when someone is doing something extraordinary for them. Oftentimes parents who devote their lives to advocating and adapting the world for their children with ASD will never experience gratitude in return.
A Good Day
Verse 1: It's always hard when I try something new And I fight to get my way I lose control and I make a scene No matter what you say Sometimes I just can't control what I do And it's hard to take things slow After a while it all falls into place And when you see me smile you'll know
Chorus: Today's gonna be a good day I know everything that I'm gonna do It's gonna be an easier day I owe it all to you I may seem lost but I want you to know From that place in my heart I can't show It's gonna be a good day
Verse 2: It took a while but we've come to a place Where we both get through the day We've learned a lot from mistakes that we've made And we've grown along the way Each day is better for you and me Still bad days come and go You always find things that I like to do And because of you I know
Ending: It's gonna be a good day It's gonna be a good day It's gonna be a good day It's gonna be a good day (chorus of children's voices) It's gonna be a good day It's gonna be a good day A good day