A Word from the Founder

[ButterflyLady]

I put this in a group on Facebook and decided to make it public here:

I try to put on a positive uplifting face and not drag others down with me, but I am tired of pretending, I am tired of sugar coating things, I am tired of all the pain and having a few people acting like I don't have my own problems or "life" to live, I am tired of the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual pain I deal with and having people tell me "just pray" or ' it will be ok, you'll see " or any number of other things, or completely dismissing my pain all together. I'm not going to sugar coat anymore, if you don't like my blunt, direct, straight forwardness, you shouldn't be on my friends list. Don't tell me, God hears all prayers, He hasn't shown me a damn thing except that I was meant to get kicked down constantly and I can't talk about it!!!!! Feeling like I can't talk about it just makes me feel that much more depressed, isolated, and unworthy of speaking my mind!!! NO MORE!
/end rant (for now, but be prepared for bluntness in the future)
If this includes you, as to not liking my bluntness and unwillingness to "sugar coat" stuff for you, PLEASE LEAVE NOW, because I will NOT tolerate it any longer, if I have any issues with you, you will be BLOCKED, I'm DONE!!!!!

I feel as if a new acquaintance in my life is trying to take over my life and rule my life for me, expecting me to be at beck and call 24/7 and I CAN'T DO THAT! I cannot continue to allow someone to come running to me every time I turn around because they over think every single tiny little thing in their life and expect ME to fix it with the snap of my fingers and then magically your life is perfect, it doesn't work that way, ever!!! I have my own problems!!!!

[ButterflyLady]

Yes, I have had times that I over think things, but I don't try to make someone else's life a living hell by sending a constant barrage of messages and profile posts to another person because of how I feel, instead, I listen to my favorite music, watch a good movie (something funny to lift me up), love on my cats, SOMETHING other than constantly pouring my shit on someone else's shoulders!!!!!

I understand occasionally needing someone to talk to, someone to unload your burden on to, someone to support you, but NOT every single day, multiple times a day for shit that shouldn't even be freaked out over, just because someone had something to do and left without saying they had to go, does NOT mean you messed up, does NOT mean they are angry with you, it ONLY means they have something they have to do, away from Facebook!!!! How hard is that to understand?!? Am I angry? Am I upset? No, just speaking my mind like I said I would be above!!! Am I frustrated?!? YES! I feel as if can't leave Facebook, even for a few minutes, for anything, no food, no answering the "call of nature," no going to the grocery store or gas station, nothing, without coming back to upset messages, threatening messages sometimes. This isn't living MY life!!!

I accepted this person into my life, not realizing what I got myself into, and it makes me feel like what happened to me is insignificant compared to this person because this person shows no support or apparent care whatsoever
It's all about them.........

I'm the one who brought them into all of our lives, I feel it's my fault! Like, I shouldn't have cared for them to stay in the pain group me and them met in, I feel selfish in thinking that if they wanted to die so bad, I shouldn't have interfeared

Now we are stuck with a blood sucking leach who will never let go of any of us, when they really need to be in a IN-patient psychiatic care unit, instead of trying to deal with stuff at home.

I have NOT named names so don't come at me asking a hundred questions about who I'm talking about because I won't tell you unless you've already spoken to them. I'm am ranting because I NEED to get it out for all to see!!!

[Warwick]

you are not the Only one Butterfly lady, I too feel the same as well. It is a struggle to get away form her and use FB.